I was away for more than 13 days from Vietnam and now back again to continue my three (3) months site assignment extension.
Kind of bit of tension to get ready of myself to officially report for site work next Monday (1 June 09). First thing in Monday morning, my mailbox for sure exploded !
Friday, May 29, 2009
Returning to Saigon 29 May 09
My Company Driver - thanks for the safe return journey from Danang Airport to Dung Quat my living Camp.
Cabin crew - arm doors and cross check....
Waiting Hall Kuala Lumpur International Airport (KLIA) - Get ready for boardingOldest Temple in Kuala Lumpur Malaysia
I was brought to this temple by my mum since 5 years old if I could still remember clearly. Sometime, I could remember things clearly. If you happen to be around Kuala Lumpur City Malaysia, please drop by this temple to make an offerring.
My 3rd Business Class
Above of my 3rd time flown with Business Class from Saigon to Danang.
My 2nd time flown with Business Class by Royal Brunei from Kota Kinabalu to Brunei
My 1st Business Class with Malaysia Airlines from kota Kinabalu to Subang Airport
My Little Home Sweet Home
My little mini garden
Public Pool that I only use one (1) time since 2005
View facing Hill Side
Right infront, the world's talest twin tower building but was blocked by service apartment.
My Source of Inspiration
Lights offerring made on behalf of my Father, Mother, myself and Friends to remove obsticles.
My Guru, Lama Zopa Rinpoche.
Green Tara - is known as the buddha of enlightened activity. The practice of Green Tara helps us to overcome Fear and anxiety and protect us from all obstacles as well as grant all our wishes swiftly.
Green Tara Mantra - OM TARE TUTTARE TURE SVAHA
Lord Buddha on left hand and 1000 arms Kuan Yin
Kuan Yin Mantra - OM MANI PADME HUNG
Grounded in Hospital from 22-25 May 09
Seems like to the hell and back to life again. this was one of the unfortunate event in my life. I pray I will be strong and will help many people as possible to remove my life obsticles.God Bless me and I survive again !
Explore Saigon for the first time in my life
Explored 9 places in half day. Kind a bit of rushing but I have made it possible for myself.
1st Home Leave 17 May 09 - Leaving Dung Quat Vietnam
Many thanks goes to my Vietnamese Driver Mr. Hoi and I have a safe 2.5 hours journey from Dung Quat to Da Nang Airport to catch my flight.
Charity Event in Vietnam
My plan to organise another charity event in Vietnam before me go back forever from my jobsite.
My contract has been extended till Mid Aug 09. but real work might not finish within this period.
Chances of getting extended is high, but nobody know future and I might as well leaving tomorrow....only god know.
My wish before leaving this great country and great Vietnamese people, humble, kind and still happly even living without enough basic needs. Again, is hard to express this to all of you and is also hard to put them in writing of my feelings.
Is hard to find them and I have found there here in this country. I hope someone from the other parts of the world's able to understand what I meant here and if they were here before in this coutry, they knew what I am talking about here.
My Malaysian Collegues, donated VND 1 million and my Aunt from Malaysia when I explains the hardship that Vietnamese had went throught, touch her heart and she donated VND 250 K and all $ is with me now.
My plan, sometime around July 09 - a month before my contract end if not extended, I shall organise another round of charity event to help those in needs again and I felt extremely relieve to put this publish this pcs of info in my blog to remind myself that there are still someone who is so carings event without know those unfortunate one and willing to take the sufferings togeher that the Vietnamese had to went through especially in this lovely countryside Dung Quat (Small town, facing eastern cost of Vietnam).
May God help me to fullfill my wishes before leaving this country for good !
Metta.
My contract has been extended till Mid Aug 09. but real work might not finish within this period.
Chances of getting extended is high, but nobody know future and I might as well leaving tomorrow....only god know.
My wish before leaving this great country and great Vietnamese people, humble, kind and still happly even living without enough basic needs. Again, is hard to express this to all of you and is also hard to put them in writing of my feelings.
Is hard to find them and I have found there here in this country. I hope someone from the other parts of the world's able to understand what I meant here and if they were here before in this coutry, they knew what I am talking about here.
My Malaysian Collegues, donated VND 1 million and my Aunt from Malaysia when I explains the hardship that Vietnamese had went throught, touch her heart and she donated VND 250 K and all $ is with me now.
My plan, sometime around July 09 - a month before my contract end if not extended, I shall organise another round of charity event to help those in needs again and I felt extremely relieve to put this publish this pcs of info in my blog to remind myself that there are still someone who is so carings event without know those unfortunate one and willing to take the sufferings togeher that the Vietnamese had to went through especially in this lovely countryside Dung Quat (Small town, facing eastern cost of Vietnam).
May God help me to fullfill my wishes before leaving this country for good !
Metta.
ASK A TEACHER
Reference from http://www.mandalamagazine.org/2009/jan/forgive.asp
Why is it so difficult to forgive ourselves and others?
Answered by Ven. Rita Riniker
I think that like everything in samsara, there are various reasons for this.
First of all, we have high expectations that everything should go well in our lives, and when it does not, our views as to why are wrong. Generally, if we do have a right view, it is just an intellectual understanding and is not applied properly.
Everything is projected outside: There is a one hundred percent enemy there and it is all his fault. With this view, we become the innocent victim. Of course, it is difficult to live with that happily.
The right view of the law of cause and effect takes care of that immediately.
Somehow, we have this arrogant idea that we should be able to protect ourselves from all harm from others as if we are superheroes and perfect. If we get hurt, our ego is not happy and we start to hate ourselves for not being perfect. That in turn makes us feel very important. Although it is not a happy feeling, we prefer to be an unhappy, important somebody than a relaxed, happy nobody.
Feeling hurt is perfect food for the ego. It makes it really big, but also very vulnerable and weak. In that way, the target to be hurt again becomes even bigger. If we see the nature of samsara as dukkha and see ourselves as having no control unless we eliminate its causes, then it is easier to accept difficult situations. Instead of them being a problem, they become an opportunity to learn.
We also confuse forgiving and forgetting. We do not want to forgive. However, we would like to forget – as if the situation had never occurred – so that we can go back to normal. But how can you forget having been harmed? What we have to understand is that we do not need to forget in order to forgive. And that which has been forgiven is, in general, well remembered. Very often we do not want to forgive because we have never tasted the bliss of forgiveness.
If we have learned how to forgive properly, then we can never be harmed again because our mind will remain peaceful in any situation. Many things are not excusable, but everything is forgivable.
If we look at what is preventing us to forgive, we could also find that there is some fear that one is condoning the action. This, of course, is not the case. You can see an action as negative without continuing to hate the person.
First of all, we have to check if there is a willingness to forgive. That comes from understanding in a direct way that by not forgiving we just keep open a wound that could heal. Our mind constantly goes to the past and refuses to see that our future will be very troubled and bleak if we do not forgive. By forgiving, we cannot change the past, but, it definitely makes the future brighter.
Another reason why it is so difficult to forgive is that we think that keeping a grudge is giving us some kind of power over the aggressor. In a mistaken way, we feel more protected keeping that grudge. But not forgiving always brings out the worst in us, while, by forgiving, our positive sides will start to operate, bringing well-being now and in the future.
We think that in order to be able to forgive, the other has to clearly acknowledge that he has hurt us. We feel that he owes us something; we would like him to be unhappy about it as if that would help us to heal our own pain. Now, how can we really be happy when we see that somebody else is suffering? That is a very perverted kind of happiness.
To make forgiving easier, we can do a simple meditation. By remembering a situation where we have hurt somebody else, we feel in ourselves the deep wish to be forgiven. We feel the pain of being stuck with the memory of this negative act. It seems possible for the other to forgive us, and it does not even appear to be so difficult.
Then we turn the whole thing around and we look at somebody that has hurt us. We feel that it is justified not to forgive that person. We do not feel the other person's pain of not being forgiven. We do not see the wish and need for the other person to be forgiven. Forgiving seems very difficult and even impossible
So, the situation is the same, but with completely different views. By meditating like this again and again, we start to understand that forgiving is difficult, but never impossible.
Swiss-born Ven. Rita Riniker is an FPMT touring teacher. She was ordained in 1991 and is based primarily at Tushita Meditation Centre in Dharamsala, India. She has taught widely in Europe, USA, Australia and New Zealand.
Why is it so difficult to forgive ourselves and others?
Answered by Ven. Rita Riniker
I think that like everything in samsara, there are various reasons for this.
First of all, we have high expectations that everything should go well in our lives, and when it does not, our views as to why are wrong. Generally, if we do have a right view, it is just an intellectual understanding and is not applied properly.
Everything is projected outside: There is a one hundred percent enemy there and it is all his fault. With this view, we become the innocent victim. Of course, it is difficult to live with that happily.
The right view of the law of cause and effect takes care of that immediately.
Somehow, we have this arrogant idea that we should be able to protect ourselves from all harm from others as if we are superheroes and perfect. If we get hurt, our ego is not happy and we start to hate ourselves for not being perfect. That in turn makes us feel very important. Although it is not a happy feeling, we prefer to be an unhappy, important somebody than a relaxed, happy nobody.
Feeling hurt is perfect food for the ego. It makes it really big, but also very vulnerable and weak. In that way, the target to be hurt again becomes even bigger. If we see the nature of samsara as dukkha and see ourselves as having no control unless we eliminate its causes, then it is easier to accept difficult situations. Instead of them being a problem, they become an opportunity to learn.
We also confuse forgiving and forgetting. We do not want to forgive. However, we would like to forget – as if the situation had never occurred – so that we can go back to normal. But how can you forget having been harmed? What we have to understand is that we do not need to forget in order to forgive. And that which has been forgiven is, in general, well remembered. Very often we do not want to forgive because we have never tasted the bliss of forgiveness.
If we have learned how to forgive properly, then we can never be harmed again because our mind will remain peaceful in any situation. Many things are not excusable, but everything is forgivable.
If we look at what is preventing us to forgive, we could also find that there is some fear that one is condoning the action. This, of course, is not the case. You can see an action as negative without continuing to hate the person.
First of all, we have to check if there is a willingness to forgive. That comes from understanding in a direct way that by not forgiving we just keep open a wound that could heal. Our mind constantly goes to the past and refuses to see that our future will be very troubled and bleak if we do not forgive. By forgiving, we cannot change the past, but, it definitely makes the future brighter.
Another reason why it is so difficult to forgive is that we think that keeping a grudge is giving us some kind of power over the aggressor. In a mistaken way, we feel more protected keeping that grudge. But not forgiving always brings out the worst in us, while, by forgiving, our positive sides will start to operate, bringing well-being now and in the future.
We think that in order to be able to forgive, the other has to clearly acknowledge that he has hurt us. We feel that he owes us something; we would like him to be unhappy about it as if that would help us to heal our own pain. Now, how can we really be happy when we see that somebody else is suffering? That is a very perverted kind of happiness.
To make forgiving easier, we can do a simple meditation. By remembering a situation where we have hurt somebody else, we feel in ourselves the deep wish to be forgiven. We feel the pain of being stuck with the memory of this negative act. It seems possible for the other to forgive us, and it does not even appear to be so difficult.
Then we turn the whole thing around and we look at somebody that has hurt us. We feel that it is justified not to forgive that person. We do not feel the other person's pain of not being forgiven. We do not see the wish and need for the other person to be forgiven. Forgiving seems very difficult and even impossible
So, the situation is the same, but with completely different views. By meditating like this again and again, we start to understand that forgiving is difficult, but never impossible.
Swiss-born Ven. Rita Riniker is an FPMT touring teacher. She was ordained in 1991 and is based primarily at Tushita Meditation Centre in Dharamsala, India. She has taught widely in Europe, USA, Australia and New Zealand.
Back to Site Vietnam Again !
Just to remind myself that today (29 May 09) , I am back to my jobsite again after 13 days of
Home leaves.
Many things happen in mylife and I will talk more when I am fully recover later.
Home leaves.
Many things happen in mylife and I will talk more when I am fully recover later.
Monday, May 11, 2009
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